From Creative FOMO to Creative JOMO: How to “Miss Out” con Gusto
Ah, FOMO. It’s the quintessential millennial bugaboo; the feeling that no matter what we’ve got going on, or whatever decision we go for, there’s always something better that we’re missing out on. It’s a symptom of living in a world with seemingly endless choices that are available to us, and most everyone has certainly experienced it, in varying degrees of severity. I know that I’m especially prone to wallowing in FOMO, and am at risk of falling into it just about every time I go to a restaurant, for no matter how much whatever I ordered is exactly what I wanted, that person sitting over there might have ordered something better. Or when I sit down to do creative work, I’ll sometimes prevent myself from fully entering into the experience because, well, I could be doing something else. If I’m writing, I could be out photographing, or whatever. It’s a real buzz kill, that FOMO.
But what can we do about the FOMO that hovers over us as we are embarking on new creative endeavors, or immersing ourselves in projects that inspire us, or going about the daily business of our lives? One of my best friends in the whole world, Victoria, introduced me to the concept of JOMO, a term coined by one of her colleagues, which for me is a genius reframing of the FOMO trap. Instead of being afraid of missing out, we embrace whatever it is we are doing with playful abandon, and say, “fuck it” to whatever we’re not doing that we could be doing. We swap out our Fear of Missing Out with a conscious Joy of Missing Out, and life just get better. If we allow ourselves to be fully present in an activity we are immersing ourselves in, then we enjoy it a whole lot more, and whatever it is we aren’t currently doing in that moment becomes irrelevant.
Three Ways to Put More JOMO In Your Life
Own Your Choices:
Whatever activity you have decided to participate it, just friggin’ go for it. Think about all of the reasons why it’s awesome that you’re doing what you’re doing, and just don’t look back. Or over there (where you’re not).
Realize there will be other opportunities to do whatever it is that you missed out on, this time:
It’s really no big deal if you don’t go to that party or you decide to stay in bed all day instead of paint or choose to get mint chip ice cream instead of pistachio. You know, there will always another ship that comes in; the opportunities just keep rolling.
Decide how you want to feel, and then make a decision from that place of clarity:
This is maybe the most important way to embrace JOMO over FOMO. Meditate, or do something totally unrelated to whatever decision you are making before you make the decision. That way, you will feel more confident that whatever choice you made was the right one for you in that moment.
Whatever you do to soothe your FOMO, just remember this: it doesn’t really matter WHAT you choose to do, it’s how you choose to feel while you’re doing it.
With Love and Mischief,