Okay, dear Procrastinator, I want you to imagine this scenario with me, just for sec:
You pull that new slinky, black bra and panty set from your top dresser drawer, and slip into it slowly, the soft, silky caress gliding over the surface of your skin sending a ripple of goose bumps all the way…down there.
You saunter up to your full-length mirror, look yourself up and down, and whisper, hey hot stuff, then whip out your new luscious-red lipstick wand and pucker up as you slather your lips with lusty glow.
You know the feeling…
The sultry, hungry feeling of anticipation.
Now, you take a seat at your desk, open up your laptop and gasp out loud to yourself, yes, I’m ready! Give it to me!
Wait, what? (you might be thinking…) Did I hear that correctly?
At my desk? Turned on?
Now, I’m willing to bet this feeling of dripping, lustful anticipation is something that you’re familiar with…before a hot date. Or a girls’ night out. Or even a brunch date with your bestie.
But imagine if you could feel this way when you sit down at your computer to write a blog post. Or before you place the first brush stroke on the canvas. Or before you gather up your gear for a photo shoot. Or, or, or…
Because this, my dears, is the secret to throbbing, satisfying, and productive experiences, whether we are lusting after a new lover, searching for a new home, or surrendering, with absolute abandon, to our creative desires.
You don’t want a flirtation; you want a passionate, ecstatic love affair with your creative work.
It’s the difference between dabbling, and Going.All.The.Way.
So, how do you do it? It’s easy to talk about, sure, but maybe a little harder to implement on a daily basis, when there are other things to think about. Like getting the dishes done. Like picking the kids up at school. And paying the rent.
But I assure you, it’s possible. No, it’s more than possible; it’s necessary if you want to create the kind of quality work you say you want to create in your life, and to enjoy every last drop of that sweet-juicy-creative-nectar that oozes out of your deepest, most heartfelt desires.
If you’re having trouble finding the inspiration—or the oomph—to get started on a project…or if you resent getting out of bed in the morning because there’s this mile-long to-do list staring you down…or if you want to pull your hair out at the chorus of voices around you that keep harping, Just.Do.It…then this is for you, baby…
It’s simple: Prime your pump with a little creative foreplay. Seduce yourself into starting.
You do it for sex, why not do it for everything else in your life?
It’s really simple, but it does require some discipline, some planning, and some time investment (15 minutes before you start something should be plenty, to start).
Experiment. See what feels good to you to get you in the mood. If you’re going to procrastinate, why not use the time to get yourself into a really juicy vibe? (instead of feeling guilty about what you haven’t yet accomplished)
Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- When you’re lying in bed in the morning and you first come back into consciousness, take this short window of opportunity (before you start running through all the things you need to do today) to turn your attention to your Why. Now, I’m not talking about your why in terms of getting to point A to point B (aka I need to get back to work so I can make more money so I can pay my rent – that’s a given, so you don’t need to go there right now). It’s a different kind of why—a why that connects you back to the spark of passion that attracted you to this endeavor in the first place. Start from an emotional place. For example: I want to write this blog post because it feels really fun to express myself from a place of feeling connected to my inspiration. It feels wild. It feels interesting. It feels…exciting. It feels fun to connect with other people who are looking for what I have to offer. Etc. See if you can build some momentum around it to take yourself higher. Get yourself high on the feeling of how you want to feel in your work before you put your feet on the floor, open up your laptop, or take out your canvas.
- I say that anything that takes you higher is the best fuel for your creativity. If you have a partner, a roommate, or a friend you feel comfortable doing this with, you can use yourself as a subject to hit a high note of inspiration (you can also use a journal). You can start simply, saying things like, I brag that I made myself the most delicious breakfast this morning of pumpkin granola, Greek yogurt, and acacia honey. Keep going. Brag about everything that you feel genuinely proud about: things you have accomplished, qualities or traits that you like about yourself, or skills or talents that you feel confident about. Notice how your energy starts to lift when you fill yourself up with YOU. Now, see if you can ride this momentum into your creative work, and notice how much more natural stamina you have.
- Dress For Turn On: What does dressing up have to do with accessing higher peaks of creativity? Oh, just about everything. Think about it: would you go on that blind date dressed as a shlump, wearing holey underwear, grandma jeans, and a frumpy sweatshirt? It’s the same thing for our creative work: if we treat our muses as we treat a lover whom we’ve grown tired of or taken for granted, then they want nothing to do with us. But if we treat them as we would treat a hot new lover whom we want to seduce, the experience—and the rewards—will be ultra-gratifying. So slather on that sexy lipstick; pull on that new bra and panty set; slip into that slinky dress and sit down to work; get yourself hot and bothered and then make sweet, deep, passionate love to your creative work.
Now, I’d love to hear from YOU. What strategies do you use to tickle and tease yourself into starting a new project, or getting back to work? Please leave your response in the comments section below.
Oh, and I almost forgot…I want to seduce YOU into playing with me over the holidays in my upcoming free 30-day course, where I will share all manner of sexy techniques and fun strategies to get your creative juices flowing again.
With All My Love,